"If you love someone let them go, if they come back its meant to be."
Have you ever met someone and you and that person just hit it off right from the get go?
It's like you just start talking and feel like you've known them since forever, but in reality it's only been a year or so? Doesn't time fly so quickly!?
You begin to form some sort of close attachment to that person. They become more than just a friend they become a part of you. I have had many friends though out my life that I have been attached to, as I'm sure you have. I mean let's be honest, how many of us get to see our "BBF" from high school on a regular basis. Which has really got me thinking about this topic.
I've been thinking about attachment a lot more recently since the idea of "Wu Wei" was brought up in class. Wu Wei is a term derived from the ancient Chinese religion of Taoism. It is the idea of effortless action. It says in society, if something is meant to be, it will be. Don't force it. Don't push it. In the right time, everything will work out just the way it's meant to. It says concerning relationships, all most the same thing, If the relationship is meant to be, it will be. You can't force someone to like you. You can't force them to love you. You can't force them to stay.
Taoists say the main cause of pain in this world is attachment. Everything is constantly changing. The only thing that is permanent is the fact that nothing is permanent. And when we become attached to anything or anyone it's open the door to sadness.
With that being said if we know that the flowers will wither away, that the buildings will crumble, and the people will eventually pass on...why do we allow ourselves to get so involved? Why do we spend so much of our time taking care of the things around us if we know it won't last? That may be a tough question to answer, so let's take the same principle and ask a simpler question you may be able to relate to
Why do we spend the money on brownie mix and spend the time making them, when we know that we will not always have those brownies? It way sound silly but why?
Because we know that even if just for a short time, it will bring us some pleasure and satisfaction.
That is exactly why we put the work and time into our relationships. Because the people in our lives bring us joy and pleasure. If they didn't we wouldn't care.
But what is it that they say? "All good things must come to an end"? BUT WHY!? This is where attachment causes serious problems. We feel that we won't be able to continue with out this thing/person. and it kills us to think that we may permanently lose it.
That's where love come into play. Remember how I described the word love in yesterday's post...concerned for the good of others.
WOW. If you genuinely love somebody, you are going to care about them and their well being more than the selfish feelings you get inside, when you want to keep them all to yourself. If leaving and breaking those ties are what they Lord has in store it's going to happen whether you agree or not. If you truly cared about that person, you would encourage them to do whatever it takes to help them get to a place where they need to be.
Don't take anything I've said in the wrong way. I'm not saying don't create those ties. I'm not saying don't nurture you relationships. I'm not saying kick people to the curb. All im simply trying to say is. People come and people go. seasons come and seasons go. Flowers bloom and flowers die. The sun rises and the sun sets. It's a fact of life that we have to learn, no matter how hard it can be.
God knows what He is doing. All we can do is pray.
"People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
Or to provide you with guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON,
It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall,
The season eventually ends.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
Those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person anyway;
And put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life."
Live...Laugh...Love
Until next time,
Racheal <3
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