Today I want to talk about the green-eyed monster...AKA Jealousy!
Nobody likes an overly jealous person. That's just a fact.
But let's admit it, being in the flesh we all carry around a small amount of jealousy in our hearts whether we want to admit it or not.
I will be the first person to raise my hand and admit that to a certain degree, I do struggle with a form of jealousy.
I believe in the right context and circumstance a small dose of jealousy can be a healthy aspect to any relationship. I once heard it put that jealousy is "a sentiment which is born in love and which is produced by the fear that the loved person prefers someone else."
If you are in a serious relationship with someone and you notice that they are still "looking at the menu", you have every right to become a little jealous, but you should not allow that jealousy to consume you.
You should either confront the person with your issues, or remove yourself from the issue.
By allowing your healthy jealousy to fester and grow you are causing more harm than good
Jealousy can be bad for you though if not in the right circumstances.
When people become jealous of others (especially of friends and others close to them) problems can arise very quickly.
The Bible says in James 3:16
"For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice."
An example could be your friend has a new boy friend.
You really want a boyfriend, so instead of being happy for your friend you become jealous.
You begin to harbor bitterness in your heart towards your friend, and you become infuriated with her and you secretly begin to wish that her and her new boyfriend would break up...I mean let's be honest why should she be happy if your not, and come on she already got that new sports car for her birthday, and that one of a kind (really expensive) prom dress. Why should she have everything!?
This type of jealousy is wrong. I mean HELLO! let's have a reality check. Did your friend do anything wrong because a guy liked her and asked her out? no. Did she do anything wrong because her family decided to surprise her with a new car? no. Did she do anything wrong by saving up her money to buy that perfect prom dress she had her eye on? no.
Then why would you decided to punish her if she did nothing wrong?
And you want to know the worst part? I bet you haven't even told her how you feel, your'e going on pretending all is well, and she has no clue. Am I right? Then what good is it doing anyway? You're only hurting youself!
Let your jealousy and bitterness go people! It's only holding you back from the wonderful blessings God wants to pour out on your life. We become so concerned and focused on what so-and-so has or what God is doing in so-and-so's life that we forget to look around and see what is going on in our lives.
No God may not chose to give us what He is giving someone else, because that is not what we need at that exact moment to be able to fulfill His plan the way it was meant to be.
And who's to say someone isn't looking at what you have and feel the same way toward you that you feel towards your friend.
Satin will use anything and everything to distract us from following God. He takes our areas of self-consciousness and inadequacies and uses it against us. Don't let him. God has something great for you too, concentrate on that.
Jealousy is nothing more than a fear of abandonment
Yet he was jealous, though he did not show it,
For jealousy dislikes the world to know it.
Jealousy is said to be the offspring of Love. Yet, unless the
parent makes haste to strangle the child, the child will not rest
till it has poisoned the parent.
In jealousy there is more self-love than love.
Jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire.
Whoever envies another confesses his superiority.
Jealousy lives upon doubts, it becomes madness or ceases entirely as soon as we pass from doubt to certainty.
O! beware, my lord, of jealousy; It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock The meat it feeds on.
Jealousy is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
Live...Laugh...Love
Until Next Time,
Racheal <3
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