A Matter of Trust

There is a saying that goes something like this...
"It takes years to build someone's trust and only seconds to destroy it."

How true is that to you?

Would you go up to some stranger on the side of the road and tell him your deepest darkest secret?
I know I wouldn't!!


First off when it comes to trust I believe there are 2 categories of people out there:

1. Those who trust you until you prove to be un-trustworthy
2. Those who don't trust you until you prove to be trustworthy

I personally would place myself into the second category.
After having given my trust away too quickly multiple times and having it shattered multiple times, I decided the best way to protect myself from any future pain would be to build up a fence around my heart and refuse to let anyone in until they proved themselves to me. Even then though only a little information was to be given at a time. That worked for a while...but alas a few bad apples still managed to fall over the fence... so once again more fences would go up, each time being built taller and stronger.

Trust plays a vital role in any friendship/relationship.  It gives us safe place. It gives us a safe place to speak out loud the mess going on in our minds, knowing that anything said is kept safe. Sometimes open communication is exactly what someone needs to think things out and make decisions.

For me, I can go over the same scenario in my head over and over and not get anything accomplished and not find any peace. That's when I go to one of my close and trusted friends and pour my heart out.
Knowing that I will not be judged. Knowing anything said is in confidence. Knowing if something I'm doing is wrong, I will be called out. And lastly knowing that any reply or criticism given will be in nothing but love.

I can tell you from experience that it is a dog-eat-dog world out there, figuratively of course, and some people will do anything to advance themselves not caring who they hurt in the process. But why hurt yourself or somebody else because  of some idiot's stupidity and lack of self-control?

People are going to hurt you but you need to hold your head high, keep moving forward, and remind yourself that there is someone out there better for you. Someone who won't break your heart or your trust, and when you find that person hold onto them with both hands and with all your might. They are worth keeping around and so valuable to our sanity!

Being overly trusting can hurt you just as much as under-trusting can. It just depends on the people and the situations.

If you know how it feels to have your trust broken, why would you put someone else through the same pain? Be careful what you say, and always think twice before you speak.
A friend was told me, "You can tell me anything and I will keep it a secret unless, it is illegal or a matter of life and death." If you ask me, that's a pretty good deal :)
I thank God everyday for my inner circle. They are awesome and they have showed me that there still are good and trustworthy people in this crazy messed up world haha

You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough. 

Few things help an individual more than to place responsibility upon him, and to let him know that you trust him.

Trust is letting go of needing to know all the details before you open your heart.  

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

Few delights can equal the mere presence of one whom we trust utterly.  

Live...Laugh...Love
Until Next Time,
Racheal <3

Ps. When all others may fail you and hurt you....God is always right there saying "It's OK, I love you, You can trust me, I will never leave you of forsake you."